PREVENTING INFIDELITY IN YOUR MARRIAGE.

Today dear friends I'm writing about Marriage, Yes! Marriage, because it is common to find couples who are genuinely in love with each other yet they get caught up in a web of deceit and infidelity. So my topic will be on Preventing Infidelity In Your Marriage.

As much as we are emotionally tied to our spouses, the truth is that it takes more than that to stay faithful. Couples make the same mistakes over and over again, then they wonder: What happened, How did it all go wrong?

The following are truths which I think couples should take note of and observe to reduce the chances of either of them falling into infidelity.

i. Marriage is not the end
Do not think that because you are married, you will not find other men/women attractive. It does not end with marriage, you will still find attractive people all around you. It is all about how you handle it.

ii. Your spouse is your only friend from the opposite sex
For the man, cut the phone calls with other women unless it STRICTLY has to do with business or work and does not go on for long periods, no text messages either. If she is not your wife, she is not your friend. That means you should not discuss private matters with other women. If you want to talk to a woman, talk to your mother or sister.
Keep discussions with other women, straight to the point. This means no flirting AT ALL. You might think it is harmless but the lady might not feel the same way. You are only in charge of your emotions.
The same applies to women, keep a stern voice if you need to. Keep discussions straight to the point and brief.
Like they say, one thing leads to another. You don't want to start that 'one thing'.

iii. Make yourself pretty for your spouse
It seems when couples get married, they stop looking good for themselves. They look good when they go out but within the house, they are a mess....
Imagine a man comes home every day to see his wife looking disheveled. This same man is bombarded by temptations outside the home and he comes home to see his wife looking 'anyhow'. Dress up for your husband, put some cologne on before he comes from work.
And men, take a shower and smell good in the home.... Try to always look the best for your spouse.

iv. Your best friend is not your spouse's friend
Most of the time, Infidelity occurs with people that are close. Your spouse's best friend or Your spouse's brother or sister. Your best friend is not your spouse's friend, keep the required distance. Do not be too cordial with your husband's friend or brother. Do not complain about your husband to his friend or brother. Talk to your father, if you need to talk to a man or talk to a professional.
Keep the barriers up in your relationships with these people. Be cordial but do not break the barriers.
If you were all friends before you got married. The man seizes to be your 'friend' after marriage. Be cordial and friendly but keep limits.

v. Make your relationship beautiful and keep it beautiful
Surprise your spouse from time to time, take vacations and long walks. Do not keep a grudge, resolve all issues before going to bed.
Once an issue is settled, DO NOT BRING IT UP AGAIN..... Start afresh..... Always start afresh after every conflict.

Vi. Segregate parties
If you have a house party, let the females stay together most of the time and the males together. You take care of bringing the food to the males while your wife takes care of the females.

Vii. Switch the phones (& all forms of technology) off at night
Many times, actual communication is replaced by gadgets. Switch the phone off at night (Say from 10pm), shut down the laptop and just talk (unless, you are a doctor and could get late calls)

I have heard stories of men spending their nights on youtube when they have a home to run. Communicate as much as possible, your home is your priority.

These are just a few things, hopefully someone finds it useful. You can equally add up to it from the comment box, you'll be helping somebody with your information.

Thank you for reading, watch out for more tips on marriage.

SIMPLE SOLUTIONS FOR COMMON PROBLEMS

There is a lot of Common Problems around us which usually needs just Simple Solutions. 

Imagine the following:

* Ants Problem: Ants hate cucumbers. Keep the skin of cucumbers near the place or ant hole.

* To get pure and clean ice, Boil water first before freezing.

* To make the mirror shine, Clean with sprite soft drink.

* To remove chewing gum from clothes, Keep the cloth in the freezer for an hour.

* To whiten white clothes, Soak white clothes in hot water with a slice of lemon for 10 minutes.

* To give a shine to your hair, Add one teaspoon of vinegar to hair, then wash your hair.

* To get maximum juice out of lemons, Soak lemons in hot water for one hour and then juice them.

* To avoid smell of cabbage while cooking, Keep a piece of bread on the cabbage in the vessel while cooking.

* To avoid tears while cutting onions, Chew gum.

* To boil potatoes quickly, Skin one potato from one side only before boiling.

* To remove ink from clothes, Put toothpaste on the ink spots generously and let it dry completely, then wash.

* To skin sweet potatoes quickly, Soak in cold water immediately after boiling.

* To get rid of mice, sprinkle black pepper in places where you find mice or rats. They will run away.

I hope they are helpful. I welcome your comments... Let me know the one's you have used before now and the one's you recently tried.

15 GREAT POINTS TO PONDER!

Get motivated with these thoughts...

15 GREAT THOUGHTS

1) "Learn from the mistakes of others... you can't live long enough to make them all yourselves!!"

2) "A person should not be too honest. Straight trees are cut first and Honest people are screwed first." Hmmm! what do you think?

3) "Even if a snake is not poisonous, it should pretend to be venomous."

4) "There is some self-interest behind every friendship. There is no friendship without self-interests. ­ This is a bitter truth."

5) " Before you start some work, always ask yourself three questions - Why am I doing it, What the results might be and Will I be successful. Only when you think deeply and find satisfactory answers to these questions, go ahead."

6) "As soon as the fear approaches near, attack and destroy it."

7) "The world's biggest power is the youth and beauty of a woman."

8) "Once you start a working on something, don't be afraid of failure and don't abandon it. People who work sincerely are the happiest."

9) "The fragrance of flowers spreads only in the direction of the wind. But the goodness of a person spreads in all direction."

10) "God is not present in idols. Your feelings are your god. The soul is your temple."

11) "A man is great by deeds, not by birth."

12) "Never make friends with people who are above or below you in status. Such friendships will never give you any happiness."

13) "Treat your kid like a darling for the first five years. For the next five years, scold them. By the time they turn sixteen, treat them like a friend. Your grown up children are your best friends."

14) "Books are as useful to a stupid person as a mirror is useful to a blind person."

15) "Education is the Best Friend. An Educated Person is Respected Everywhere. Education beats the Beauty and the Youth."

Do you have any to share with us? Hit the comment button!

USEFUL AND HANDY USES OF SALT !

What do you know about salt? 

I guess this information will go a long way to increase your knowledge about salt. Read on and don't forget to place your comment below, I welcome your comment as much as you're always here. Thanks!

1. If you drop a whole egg on the floor, pour salt all over the egg, let it sit for awhile, then use dustpan, the egg will come right up, without all that mess.

2. Soak stained hankies in salt water before washing.

3. Sprinkle salt on your shelves to keep ants away.

4. Soak fish in salt water before descaling; the scales will come off easier.

5. Put a few grains of rice in your saltshaker for easier pouring.

6. Add salt to green salads to prevent wilting.

7. Test the freshness of eggs in a cup of salt water; fresh eggs sink; bad ones float.

8. Add a little salt to your boiling water when cooking eggs; a cracked egg will stay in its shell this way.

9. A tiny pinch of salt with egg whites makes them beat up fluffier.

10. Soak wrinkled apples in a mildly salted water solution to perk them up.

11. Rub salt on your pancake griddle and your flapjacks won't stick.

12. Soak toothbrushes in salt water before you first use them; they will last longer.

13. Use salt to clean your discolored coffee pot.

14. Mix salt with turpentine to whiten you bathtub and toilet bowl.

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